Do Jesus and Paul speak hyperbolically? Any reader knows the answer is a well-supported yes. The typical problem is most people don’t actually read the whole book to get context or even the feel for how a writer engages his audience and why he engages them in such a fashion because cultural context and background is infrequently studied. It’s like meeting me for the first time, my humor is so dry those who don’t know me may not pick up on it even in our current culture but if you recorded exchanges I’ve had and played them for people 2000 years in the future they’d be likely very confused even if they spoke the same language. They would think I’m contradictory, harsh or stupid especially if I was arguing Torah observance and was attempting to shock and confuse those who were debating me. We need to understand Paul and Jesus’s phrases and we need to understand cultural themes and references and ultimately their many different audiences because guess what… you weren’t one of those. We like to throw around the phrase “the Bible was written for you but not to you” but we really don’t apply that logic very often. Now don’t get me wrong there are times scripture is written to you because Jesus and many prophets and some apostles wrote to future generations, yes that’s you. Paul wrote to many different churches and synagogues but not to “the church.” Jesus spoke to future generations at times but the audience He felt he needed to speak most hyperbole to was the various religious sects of Judaism that like to follow Him around and bring up challenges.
I’ve been enjoying my journey through the Bible the past year while using the NRSV cultural backgrounds study bible. I highly recommend it and I will exclusively be sharing its notes on our verses of discussion.
Before we go further let’s point out the moral issue most people have with marriage permanence doctrine:
Two wrongs don’t make a right. Even if a divorce was done for non-biblical reasons and that divorce person remarried, should they commit another sin by abandoning their family and break up the parental structure that kids so desperately need?
The common response to this would be “what if a homosexual couple realized they were living in sin, should they just stay together? What if they had adopted kids?”
At first glance this seems like a strong counter but a man and a man are not a parental structure nor is a woman and a woman. Homosexuality defies the natural order and I wouldn’t say it is a greater sin than adultery but it goes against what God has established as well as many other laws He has set forth. The first of those laws being, go forth and multiply. So, it’s comparing apples and oranges really.
Divorce is a terrible thing. It may or may not be sin depending on the situation. Sin has consequences as Moses warns “I set before you blessing and cursing. Blessing if you obey and cursing if you do not.” Most of my life I’ve spent trying to figure what is a blessing and what is a curse and what I’ve discovered is Yahweh’s plan for us is so perfect that each trial we face is a blessing if we choose to see it that way because He is always working for our good. That ‘good’ may not feel so pleasant at times but once you look back over your journey you will see how you have climbed to greater heights.
I’ve come to the realization that marriage is about holiness and not happiness. If God placed two people together and they were happy and always got along without fights, neither would grow, neither would seek after God and His word because they would be solely content in each other. Yahweh’s relationship with us is not based on what He can get out of the contract but based on what He can give and how He can keep on loving despite what we have done. Marriage will help you understand the Father’s heart if you allow it to but even with these words I hesitate because there are certainly situations where no growth can take place. Same is in the spiritual realm, there will be those who refused to enter a covenant with Yahweh or refuse to obey the laws of that covenant. They will be like the unwise virgins in Jesus’s parable and not get to enter the holy city on that great day. The same is with divorce, there are wicked men and women. There are those who lose faith and demand to leave. We must use discernment as we listen to Jesus and Paul and remember that their gospel was the Law and the Prophets. The first 2/3 of the Bible has always been the good news and the promise of the coming kingdom, the gospel of the kingdom of God. We must understand the beginning to really connect with the teachings of Paul and Yeshua.
Even when Jesus said Moses allowed divorce because of their hard hearts, we miss the meaning. It wasn’t about allowing that man to leave his wife because he was not content but freeing his wife from an unworthy husband. Even a thing like slavery would be a good comparison. Slavery will not exist after the millennial reign and neither will divorce. Slavery based on Torah existed as a way for someone to work off debts or learn a trade skill and wasn’t as vile as other later historical examples but still it showed a fallen state. We live in a world with evil people and that leads to suffering for others. God will allow trials to grow us but will deliver us from evil.
Examples of Jesus using hyperbole:
There’s a lot more of course but these were just a few I noticed that were likely spoken to or within ear shot of the same Rabbinic challengers that brought up the marriage questions.
Mathew 5:22 and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire.
… obviously you’re not going to hell for calling your little brother stupid in the 2nd grade.
Mathew 5:27
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell.
Most catch the meaning Jesus is throwing at us and do not reach for a cleaver every time they sin but cleave to God and repent. This is either striking hyperbole or there should be a lot more limbless, eyeless people hobbling about.
Let’s move on, you get the gist.
1 cor. 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
In my experience my ex-wife wanted to leave and I fought for her to stay. Could I have been a better spiritual leader in the past? Could I have fought harder? Should I have remained single until the divorce was final? Yes, yes, and yes. But ultimately, despite all my sin and failings, I and others like me are called to peace. We are not enslaved in our past marriages and if we were still bound not to remarry that is still enslavement to that other person. Many sins on both parts led up to the collapse of my first marriage and that tore God’s heart out to see and mine as well but He not only forgives but gives second chances. There are consequences and there are few good reasons for divorce but they do exist. People get left, people can be in physical danger or facing a wicked narcissistic person and you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone but God and perhaps your pastor because we lack a Levitical priesthood and its associated judges.
In my case I knew enough scripture at the time of my wife leaving to fight because I knew I protected her salvation despite her unbelief. Convicted of this I encouraged we go to counseling but she still drafted the paperwork and like the scripture encouraged, I let her go because she desired to leave. Divorce should be a last resort and only done when advised by a leader in your congregation that you have sought council with.
NRSV Cultural backgrounds bible note on 1 cor. 7:16
Not bound. What happens when the marriage is dissolved against the believer’s will? In divorce contexts, the meaning of “not bound” is clear; this was the precise language in Jewish divorce contracts for freedom to remarry.
The more someone knows Torah the more confusing they may appear. Paul spins our heads and Peter warns us to read the student of Gamaliel’s letters while planting our feet firmly on the foundation of the law. Jesus, self-proclaimed riddle master, takes the cake however and we must be even more grounded in the Tanakh than even a pious pharisee. If we recall, when asked about His parables by the disciples, Jesus responded by telling them the Pharisees hear but never perceive.
Mathew 13:10 Then the talmidim came and asked Yeshua, “Why are you speaking to them in parables?”
11 He answered, “Because it has been given to you to know the secrets of the Kingdom of Heaven, but it has not been given to them.
12 For anyone who has something will be given more, so that he will have plenty; but from anyone who has nothing, even what he does have will be taken away.
13 Here is why I speak to them in parables: they look without seeing and listen without hearing or understanding.
14 That is, in them is fulfilled the prophecy of Yesha`yahu which says, `You will keep on hearing but never understand, and keep on seeing but never perceive,
15 because the heart of this people has become dull — with their ears they barely hear, and their eyes they have closed, so as not to see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their heart, and do t’shuvah, so that I could heal them.’
16 But you, how blessed are your eyes, because they see, and your ears, because they hear!
17 Yes indeed! I tell you that many a prophet and many a tzaddik longed to see the things you are seeing but did not see them, and to hear the things you are hearing but did not hear them.
Luke 16:18
Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Cultural backgrounds bible note
Luke 16:18 and Mat 5.31 certificate of divorce. Cf. Deut 24.1; such a certificate allowed a wife to remarry; the key element of such certificates was the phrase, “You are now free to marry another man” (sometimes abbreviated, “You are now free”).
5.32 except on the ground of unchastity. One school of Pharisees (the school of Hillel) allowed divorce for any reason; the other (the school of Shammai) allowed it only for “sexual immorality” (as here). A legal divorce permitted remarriage, but without a valid divorce, a wife’s new marriage was invalid, hence adulterous. (In a Jewish legal setting the wife’s divorce was more at issue than the husband’s because Jewish law in principle permitted men to have multiple wives.) Jesus here depicts divorce as invalid, apart from the partner’s infidelity. Because Jesus often used graphic hyperbole (see note on v. 30), offered general statements that might be qualified in some cases (see note on 1 Cor 7.15), and elsewhere treated the dissolution of marriage as genuine (though normally wrong; cf. Mt 19.6; Jn 4.18), some view the present statement as hyperbole. Hyperbole was meant to graphically reinforce the point, here the warning against breaking one’s marriage.
Like Paul, Jesus can offer some staggering statements as the note above suggests. Aggressive language to make a point was common one of my favorite examples is when Paul tells the circumcision party to fully castrate themselves. Paul wanted to shock his intended audience to make a point and it calls to mind Jesus’s comments on eunuchs in Mathew 19:12.
John 4:18
for you have had five husbands, and the one you now have is not your husband. What you have said is true.
Great time for Jesus to address marriage permanence but He does not. Most will assume she is not in covenant with this 5th man or is still legally bound to the fourth. Jesus only discounts the 5th and unless the first three are all dead He should have said something in this particular instance… like “return to your first husband.” This calls into question instructions pertaining to the Torah about how a man cannot remarry the same woman if she has moved on and married another man—how could she marry another? That marriage isn’t real it’s just adultery, right? Why call it marriage? And then why can’t she go back to her first husband if it was just adultery—unless you’re dumping the mosaic law altogether which most have to if they are to rationalize marriage permanence. Replacement theology is a whole other argument but this study is meant for readers with a messianic understanding.
Mat 19:6
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”
Cultural backgrounds bible note
19.5–6 Teachers sometimes challenged other teachers’ interpretations of verses (here some Pharisees’ understanding of Deut 24.1) by appealing to other texts that contradicted those interpretations. Jesus here appeals to Gen 2.24.
19.3 divorce his wife for any cause. Jewish teachers in general regarded divorce as tragic but the choice of the husband; they would not normally interfere. Although wealth could buy exceptions for powerful women, the usual Judean custom was that only the husband had the option of divorce. (If the husband were abusive, however, a court could force him to grant his wife a divorce.) There were two schools of thought among the Pharisees: the school of Shammai and the school of Hillel. Shammaites outnumbered Hillelites in Jesus’ day (unlike after AD 70), but various ancient sources suggest that on the question of divorce the Hillelite view probably reflected the dominant practice in the larger society (cf. Sirach 25.26; Josephus, Antiquities 4.253; Life 415, 426). Shammaites interpreted the grounds for divorce in Deut 24.1 (“something indecent about her,” emphasizing indecent) as a reference to the wife’s unfaithfulness; by contrast, Hillelites emphasized the word something and believed that a husband could divorce his wife for any cause (rendered here “for any and every reason”). Some sages recommended divorcing a disrespectful or disobedient wife (Sirach 25.25–26). Although few husbands would have taken advantage of the rule, Hillelites graphically claimed that a husband could divorce his wife even for burning the bread; a later Hillelite rabbi added, “or if he finds someone more beautiful” (in the Mishnah see Gittin 9.10; Sipre Deut 269.1.1).
Sirach or Ecclesiasticus is a second temple writing of wisdom literature akin to psalms and proverbs.
It was written in Hebrew in Palestine around 180–175 bce by Ben Sira, who was probably a scribe well-versed in Jewish law and custom. Sirach is found in both the Codex Sinaiticus and the Codex Vaticanus, the two oldest complete Christian Bibles in existence. (Both of these codices are bases for the Nestle-Aland Critical Text, upon which most modern Protestant Bible translations are based). Sirach was included not only in the original 1611 King James Bible, but even in Calvin’s 1560 Geneva Bible. The book was not expurgated from the King James Bible (along with the other deuterocanonical books) until the early 19th century. It can still be found, however, today in all Catholic and Orthodox Christian Bibles, along with a handful of Bibles that are considered to be more or less Protestant (e.g. RSV), albeit in special editions.
Sirach 25 speaks of the wicked woman and how the virtuous man must put her away and give her a certificate of divorce. Sirach describes what we refer to as narcissism today, this is a woman who will not change, will never see who she truly is but is hellbent on destroying those who defy her. It’s actually a great chapter in a great book of wisdom, I give it 5 stars.
Sirach or even Josephus cannot be brushed aside as they give us a glimpse of Torah adherence right before and after Jesus’s ministry.
Cultural backgrounds bible note
19.4 Have you not read . . . ? Jesus’ question would insult the Pharisees. Nevertheless, his line of argument would be hard to discredit; many other Jewish thinkers of this period found divine ideals in the creation narrative. The Qumran sectarians, e.g., used Gen 1.27 (cited here) to prohibit kings from marrying multiple wives (Damascus Document 4.20–5.2; Temple Scroll 56.18–19). For many Jewish people, the ideals of the “beginning” also foreshadowed the future kingdom.
The messianic kingdom is the area of study I love, a return to the Edenic state. That’s a topic that gets me excited because we will watch our fallen world be renewed from the walls of the New Jerusalem. God’s original plan and vision for us will be returned and we can only guess at how it will look then and if marriage will even exist in some form. This is YHWH’s heart and His perfect law reveals His nature and love for us. The law (the behavior of the Father) will exist in the future kingdom, it has to. Jesus and Paul can only add understanding to the law, they cannot add or take from it. Also, marriage permanence clearly does not fit YHWH’s heart because of the chaos it would cause to the families and children of parents that were convinced they should walk away from their marriage because one or both of them had been divorced.
Mat 19:9
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.
NRSV note
19.9 commits adultery. Viewing remarriage as adultery treats a first marriage as indissoluble in God’s sight. This was shocking hyperbole, however, since Jesus’ point is that marriage should not be broken, not that it never is broken (see v. 6). Shammaites allowed divorce only for grounds of unfaithfulness; Jesus sides with them as against the many others who allowed it “for any and every reason” (v. 3; see note there). (The other NT exception, in 1 Cor 7.15, also involves a matter beyond the believer’s control; the principle common to both passages seems to be that believers should never break their marriage covenant, but that neither are they ultimately responsible for the other partner doing so.)
Mat 19:10
The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”
NRSV note
19.10 better not to marry. Ancient marriage contracts often included a clause specifying what would happen in case of divorce. Because parents arranged many marriages, and many Galilean couples had no unchaperoned time together before marriage, the disciples fear the prospect of marriage with no escape for difficult circumstances.
19.12 eunuchs. Although eunuchs in Near Eastern royal courts could exercise power, Greco-Roman society often ridiculed eunuchs as effeminate or “half-men.” Jewish people abhorred castration, and eunuchs were excluded from the covenant (Deut 23.1). Speaking figuratively of long-term singleness, Jesus explains that there are some “who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.” Apart from some Essenes, most of Jesus’ Jewish contemporaries regarded marriage and rearing children as an important duty.
Even atheists will stand behind the obvious moral law that a child needs a parental structure. How could Jesus speak of the importance of children right after expressing a wish for marriages to dissolve? Because marriage isn’t about happiness, it’s about holiness. No matter how alike, two partners will have to sacrifice much in a marriage. They will grow and learn more about loving others and even more about how to improve oneself because your spouse becomes a mirror to show you things you were unaware of before. This is righteous living that draws us close to the person God desires us to be and also gives us a glimpse at how our Father loves us unconditionally.
Mat 19:25
“Who then can be saved?” But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
If we read on just a little bit further, we see this promise. Ultimately, we all will have many failings in our lives, divorce makes us unclean but Jesus restores us as our High Priest.
Heretics 22:22 if a man divorces His wife he is not to take another wife while his first wife is still alive for this is adultery and there is never a good reason to divorce a wicked woman.
We should see something like this included in God’s prefect law if this was the case. It’s simply not there amongst laws that go into some great detail and specifics because fornication and adultery are things that not only make people unclean but cast a shadow of sin over the whole congregation. If Yahweh took the time to explain a man should not lie with an animal, it makes sense He would take the time to breakdown this form of adultery as well.
So, what was Jesus trying to say to this legalistic sect that believed they were righteous by their own strength? Earning their own salvation if you will? He was making it clear that all Israel is adulterous and that we all need a savior. Take the man who ask what more he should do to be saved since he has kept the Torah since he was a boy. Jesus tells him to give up all his wealth to follow Him. Are we all expected to walk away from our families and leave then destitute? No, in most cases that would be evil and unloving toward our families to do. It’s a good idea to bring this up because after Jesus shows so much favor to children after throwing adulterous practices in the Pharisees’ faces, this rich man comes up to Him. Jesus is already on fire from His day of arguing the law so let us review what He says.
Mathew 19:16
16 iAnd behold, a man came up to him, saying, “Teacher, what good deed must I do to jhave keternal life?” 17 And he said to him, “Why do you ask me about what is good? There is only one who is good. lIf you would enter life, keep the commandments.” 18 He said to him, “Which ones?” And Jesus said, m“You shall not murder, You shall not commit adultery, You shall not steal, You shall not bear false witness, 19 Honor your father and mother, and, nYou shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 20 The young man said to him, o“All these I have kept. What do I still lack?” 21 Jesus said to him, “If you would be pperfect, go, qsell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have rtreasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” 22 sWhen the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.
I know this comes a bit out of order because we’ve already had a look at what Jesus says after this to His bemoaning disciples. Our Messiah dropped many hard challenges and very few today are living this intensely devoted life. How many do you know living on nothing in the mission field? How many divorced and remarried do you know in the church? How many enjoy no pleasures such as eating out, alcohol, or many of the comforts of this day? It’s obvious we are supposed to raise an eyebrow here and keep reading. Anyone in the Messianic community is familiar with how the Torah upholds and protects the family structure. Is Jesus and Paul now ripping that apart? Can rich people truly not make it into the Kingdom from Heaven?